Sometimes things can get us down! Sadness is a normal human feeling that everyone feels from time to time – people of all ages feel sadness and get 'the blues', even kids.
When you’re feeling down, it may seem like it will last forever, but feelings of sadness eventually do pass – it might take a few moments, a few hours, or maybe a day or two, but it will get better. Maybe life feels too hard, and it can seem like no one understands. It’s normal to feel like this sometimes, but sometimes sad feelings and thoughts hang around like a dark cloud and won’t go away. These feelings can hurt really deeply and stop you from enjoying the things you normally find fun, if this is what’s going on for you here are some things you can do.
There are many reasons why you might feel sad or blue, some reasons include:
- the death of a loved one or a pet
- being put down or yelled at
- being bullied at school
- being under too much pressure
- feeling lonely or having problems with friends
- having your heart broken
- having conflict or problems at home (including violence, alcohol or drug use, abuse, illness or family stress)
Sometimes people can feel really sad and not be sure why.
Please remember that you’re not alone – 1 in 7 young people in New Zealand experiences 'the blues'
How to feel better
There are people out there who can help – with help, things can get better and you can feel happier again.
- Reach out for help – If you’ve been feeling down for a while, reach out for help by talking to a parent, a doctor, a counsellor, and others who are supportive and will help you take steps towards getting into a better head space. The sooner you reach out for help, the sooner things can start to look brighter.
Take good care of yourself – Eat healthy foods, get enough sleep, be active, take time to relax. Looking after your health and wellbeing, even if you don’t feel like it at first, can really help you feel better.
Share your sad feelings with friends – It can feel better when someone knows what you’re going through, and the other person can help you think of ways to make the situation better. But don’t spend all your time talking about what’s wrong – be sure to talk about good things too. You could talk about your hopes and dreams, the things you like, and stuff that makes you laugh. Thinking about the good stuff, even the little things, can help you feel better again – give it a go!